That brings me to an addiction that I think is very real: "dating addiction," and it is not to be confused with sex addiction.
As the owner of the dating service Lunch Dates for 23 years, I saw many singles whom I would classify as being addicted to dating.
All of a sudden they are getting 5 to10 e-mails a day from prospective dates!
It can be very exciting for some people who have always had a minimal personal life.
For more insight into the subject, we turned to an expert: Pia Mellody, Senior Clinical Advisor for The Meadows and Clinical Consultant for Mellody House and Dakota, who traces the origins of love addiction to early childhood trauma caused by neglect or abandonment.
In the following interview, Mellody discusses the ideology of the addiction, how to recognize it, the stages of addiction from attraction and fantasy to denial and obsession, and the recovery process for love addicts based on 12-step work and counseling.
Maybe your month ran out on JDate and you want to try Saw You At Sinai.
Maybe the pickings were slim on Chemistry, so you branched out to Perfect Match.
Love addiction is a condition in which individuals do not fall in love with someone who will return their affection.
Rather, they are attracted to somebody who will neglect the relationship.
(They like to keep their options open.) Many are content to just chat online.
This can keep people interested for a few months without ever meeting them, because that is all they want. (They are probably married or in a relationship.)Another situation with online dating is how often you & your friends may get contacted by the same people.
It’s a very real issue, yet many haven’t even heard of it — or understand it.